Females are not expected to serve and MOST of the girls that do, only do so because they do not have a suitable read: If your GF is an attractive girl and still ended up on a mission then she is about as fanatical as they come and if she isn't already she will be slowly trying to convert you. Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. Instructions can be found here: Posted by Your Doctor's Wife at 2: September 6, at 3: Marianne April 28, at 8: Anonymous September 21, at Anonymous October 19, at 9: Anonymous May 3, at 5: Anonymous November 24, at 2: Anonymous January 13, at 8: A must-read every morning. My relationship is the same way. After all, when he IS around, he never makes them do anything they don't want to do, and he buys them expensive things to make up for being absent from their lives so much. Please realize I know how the church works, was extremely active and raised good kids. The LDS Church meets many of the criteria for cult behavior. I still assume at times that my husband will recognize that I love him if I do his laundry and keep the house clean and care well for our children, etc. It's like talking to a wall.
Some of the guests talked about the importance of helping hard core mormons to be open and accepting to ALL their brothers and sisters in the church, regardless of sexual orientation. I have rediscovered what I love about the church but choose not to attend or participate. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet. I have seen love prevail over beliefs. She cannot get into the top echelons of heaven without being sealed to a worthy priesthood holder in the temple for time and all eternity. By the time you are done, you'll have all of the basics down and will have the framework to know what to ask next without any confusion. If you are married to your best friend, then love him unconditionally, share the struggles, accept the sacrifices and know that if he could, he would rather be with you than with a sick or dying patient.
The point is that there are way too many people talking in this thread as if they have some sort of psychic knowledge a stone in a hat, perhaps. As the patriarchal leader, it will be up to you to figure it out and to dispel her unrealistic fantasies. A lot of people are religious. Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. I agree she should be able to watch a movie or do her own research. She may be beautiful, friendly, and sincere. Mormons love to have fun, but they prefer keeping it clean, respectful, and something that everyone can enjoy.
If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. We have a strong relationship, so I am lucky - but lately the demands of family are becoming a bit too much to handle - and I really don't know how to 'deal' with my inlaws and 'sharing' my husband with them. Lots of really thorough replies. I was born and raised in the LDS faith.