It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. Because if you can't live and let live, you both need to dive deep into this stuff and figure out what you believe and want in your life. Sadly, my ward shuns us. When my nephews started looking at porn on computers everybody blamed me when it wasn't me. They will teach the girls that sex is bad and wrong, which is something they will have trouble putting behind them when they eventually do get married. Your comment is SO spot on in my experience. He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him.
I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday. If you both comfortable having different faiths, your relationship can still be rewarding and fulfilling. I am so in need of a support group. Love the way you normalize the challenges of being married. I don't mean to be rude, but she's not gonna give up her "nonsense". If your doctor husband says "impossible", ignore him. When I was a teen, my first boyfriend was a convert and people would comment on that instead of how nice he was to me. Anytime he is with me and "our" son he is on call, distracted or "needs" time to watch football and golf. Chances are you can't though. I agree we shouldn't continue if we can't accept each other as we are.
What about the folks at church. It is always a nice idea to plan for your date in advance. I'd rather marry a doctor and let him have a mistress on the side if that means not having to worry about money. With that being said, I have long considered myself just a tad outside super TBM since we watched Game of Thrones, drank energy drinks, and occasionally stayed in my running clothes sans garments to do yard work. Log in or sign up in seconds. I found that it worked just as well. Long story short, everyone is dead on.
As a physician buckling under the stress, my assigned counsellor who is also a church minister told me: So, what do I do with that. Mormonism is a religion that's as manipulative as it is comforting. Almost everything is complicated. My next serious boyfriend was raised Methodist but considered himself non-denominational Christian and people would comment on that instead of his character. Take the missionary lessons, read the Book of Mormon and the Bible. My family supported me in this. But please also know that the people who love you are hoping you make the right decision because they want you to be happy.
