I have been on both sides of this situation, and I know how much it sucks to feel like you're doing everything you can to make it as easy and convenient as possible for the other person to spend time with you, but theyre still not seeing you all that much, and you think they should be able to give you a little more. I read every page of the CES letter, and it's definitely convinced me this entire religion is fabricated, but I'm sure she wouldn't even read it much less consider its points seriously. I have recently seen too much of these false promises that people use to make others feel good. The fact she's dating you while you aren't a Mormon is at least a sign of hope. You don't have to believe them yourself, but you need that respect in thought as well as action, and you need to frame this as your own journey because you can only change yourself. Will he be happy knowing that you are giving up something of incredible importance to you.
We had lots of sex and fun. My faith, while less orthodox, has certainly matured. Consider yourself above many things. I could never put up with the crap he has to put up with but he could never put up with the loneliness I have to put up with Awww this makes me sooo sad. I was in your same position years ago. I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. Having no expectations and being flexible is very important. No lie he was one of the kindest human beings I've metbut I was afraid of getting deeper into the relationship, so I ended it.
Also, I'm sorry that things didn't work out for you with that guy: I'm sure you will meet someone else that's just as wonderful but treats you better if you haven't yet. I am married to an amazing man and physician who cried when he told our 6 year old that he had to cancel on her classroom visit for the second time because he got called into work on his day off, again. Ask her if her parents buy their underwear from a bookstore.
Ultimately, it comes down to this. Not being an RM, they weren't really interested in me. The point is that there are way too many people talking in this thread as if they have some sort of psychic knowledge a stone in a hat, perhaps. As a non-Mormon male widower Catholic contemplating marrying a devout temple recommended widow, I thank you all for the wonderful blog. Other lazy Mormon girls turn feminist, many thousands of them. Men search the world for women that they can stand to be around with long-term. What's not to like about being a doctor's wife.
