For me and the woman I'm in love with, we CAN discuss it without breaking down into spittle and hate. I definitely don't want to lead her on. I would never change my decision to marry him. If he weren't a doctor saving lives and had more free time, he could most definitely do YOUR job. What if you are sexually incompatible. I feel as if I am a single parent.
To me, life is all about growthвso ask yourselfвwill I grow more staying single and focusing my life on the church, or will I grow more branching out, looking at life from different perspectives, and allowing myself to see options I have not yet considered. The woman's role is to grow up, marry a worthy priesthood holder, and have a lot of kids. If she says yes. However, for me, there have been some perks too. And of course, when it happens, no one the leaver or the faithful spouse could have predicted it. Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission. Also, if you have girls, you must realize that they are second class citizens in the church and the church will reinforce this idea. And if you do belong to a ward full of cretins, you must do everyone a favor and just ignore them until they go extinct. Sometimes it's easy to forget all the wonderful times we had together before he got into med school.
The misogyny is deep in the Mormon church. And if he loves you as much as you love him. This woman is a human being, not a caricature of a TBM. No one knows your situation the way you do. I know it will get better over time. Why is it up to the wife or girlfriend to make it work and face being lonely forever. My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine. Within a cultural group marriage is hard.
He puts no effort forth toward our marriage - he has no time or energy to do so. She cannot get into the top echelons of heaven without being sealed to a worthy priesthood holder in the temple for time and all eternity. I have been married to a doc for 31 years and just found out about an "emotional affair" that went on for 15 years she is a nurse. Joanna has written a good answer here. Weirdly, one of the best sexes I ever had was with a lesbian who felt remorse and as though she had betrayed her fellow lesbians. There's a reason so many Utahns are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. To the two wondering sistersвYou both appear to be with loving, incredibly supportive men. Eternity is a long time. I do not see this going well.