Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree. Don't put them through that either. We should all remember this is a human being, and she has a brain. If so, then step away from the internet and go look him in the eyes and take his hands and start asking him all the questions you asked me. And as an outsider it will be obvious to you what's going on, but here's an awesome breakdown from a couple that flipped from "we go to church every week - we will write a Mormon blog" to resigning over the new policy banning children of gays all over the NY Times this month and something that is upsetting many staunch church members a few days ago. Mormonism has a lay clergy, so everyone serves in the Church. I look at my single male doctor colleagues and some of them are sweet and honestly looking for a connection. Her experience may or may not be typical, but it is something to consider. Of course, your parents will care most.
They therefore have a high standard to work toward. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. In 5 years, one thing has become certain to me. It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people. I do my best, I accepted him knowing the stress on his career, knowing that it isn't easy. Also, we haven't practiced polygamy for over years. What's NOT to like about being the wife of a medical doctor. So if you marry a doctor do not have low expectations, but learn early to take third parties out of your marriage even if you have to call them directly and tell theey do not matter to me. The point is that he should ASK her if this is true for her.
I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also. Ask her if her parents buy their underwear from a bookstore. Everyone seems to think that I'm lucky to marry a doctor. Did everything in my power to support him, whether it be financial, emotional, etc.
And no one has the right to judge you for your decision. And those women are very replaceable to them. I know "Meet the Mormons" isn't what I'm looking for I went through a very similar experience earlier this year and the community was extremely helpful. If he's in year 1 of the residency, he's got probably years left finishing residency then fellowship. Send them to beautiful places and request photos of specific statues. I don't think we could have a real conversation about those points either. I loved being single, and I love dating him now, but demanding rotations are giving me an idea of what his surgical residency will be like except that I know it will be x I have spent hours and hours and hours on blogs like these, trying to understand if it will be worth it-- worth the very real possibility of losing my identity, of boxing myself in career-wise, of never being in control of where I live, of a thousand lonely nights.