Also, as Joanna points out, men and women already inhabit a separate culture. Part of me feels like will I ever get chosen for one weekend as a priority over medicine. Mormon children are advised, in their religion, to refrain from dating until they are at least 16 years of age. When my nephews started looking at porn on computers everybody blamed me when it wasn't me. As a docs wife we have to deal with all sorts, and prayer has often been my lifeline. When you work this hard, you need to play hard. I would advise you to try to be as understanding as you can of her point of view, because having you world view shattered is very difficult and can take a long time to recover from.
This is because they gave up the structure of what made them desirable in the first place. Well, you know what you're not going to get into before marriage So fuck that relationship. He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him. If I knew any better going into this relationship I would have stopped. Can they keep a job and or clean up after themselves. In any case; I can assure you from your post that he doesn't sound like he's being selfish; the behavior does sound like its residency related and not selfishness related. If you do manage to break her away from the church, her family will be there to continue sowing doubt. Marriage is hard, period.
I'll keep digging through it, but there's a lot there and I'd like some suggestions to narrow my search. I started dating "A" right after he graduated med school and as he started his residency. What you are potentially choosing is certainly not the easiest path. I constantly have to reprioritize my kid, work, other activities. Yeah man, don't doubt someone who was a missionary will try to convert you. That's just too high a price to pay. Yet others are really great human beings. Read our FAQ s. There are a lot of single people in the world. Is it naive to think we could raise our children to fully participate in two different faiths.
I simply do NOT believe he and I will not be together after we die. So if you feel like you both are getting serious, then talk to your girlfriend in time and sort this issue out. Attacking other posters is not allowed, but this forum recognizes the difference between a belief and the person holding to that belief.