It is so hard, so sad and so lonely. And whoever said doctors make lot ofmoney is full of b. But that was also a possibility if he had married a non-mormon. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert. As soon as she becomes dissatisfied, she will turn face and educate the OP about just how wrong it would be for her to stay with him. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you. I wouldn't just start bringing up the ces letter and the problems in it. There is NO guarantee that marrying a returned missionary RM in the temple equates with love and happiness. I'll give him a chance to fix it by talking to him about it, but the more that I think about how he has treated me the more I just feel ready to check out of the whole situation. I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others.
You have to choose what's right for you, but you have to figure it out. But realistically, if she is not open minded enough to even listen to someone who has a contrasting view of the church - how will she not continually discount you and your lack of beliefs. You are not a worthy RM priesthood holder. I miss my husband dearly. Although it may indeed be a good idea to get out of this one, we all need to keep in mind that the situation is more complex than that. My husband is a surgical oncologist. She might not realize how important it is to compromise. Spending a lifetime single is not something most people would choose to do, but fear of being forever single should never be a deciding factor in entering a marriage, lest serious problems go unaddressed before serious commitments are made. I love him dearly with all of my heart. He's not home much and his hours are crazy but, wow, I am one happy woman.
The important things that keep our marriage a happy, healthy, and very loving one are the same things that keep any other marriage alive and well. Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree. I hope you can make this work out.
Some say, they love wearing it, it gives them "protection from evil". If kids ever came into the picture though, I wouldn't want to be isolated from them psychologically or banned from walking my daughter down the aisle someday. One of the most well known church prophets stated that he would rather see his own child dead in their coffin than married outside the temple. I was going to be having leftovers of everything; time, energy, etc. I thought she would grow out of it. I am married to an ongologist for 16years.